What Does Resilience Mean to You?

Certain words seem to be popular at different times. They're used as buzz words, meant to encourage us to focus on specific aspects of our health, wellbeing and performance. Resilience is the latest of these words, but what do you understand by it, what does resilience mean to you?

 

Many of us regard resilience as being about tenacity, durability, coping with 'the heat' and being ready and able to bounce back. Perspective is an important aspect of resilience, seeing hurdles as stepping-stones and not treating them as barriers or stumbling blocks. The way we view problems is significant; if we feel overwhelmed or defeated we're not going to be as positive about a good outcome, maybe even question if it's worthwhile continuing. Nurturing a good outlook is crucial to keeping going.

 

But equally resilience is about recognising when a break is needed, when it's time to recharge the batteries or even switch off for a while. When we read statistics reporting that 2 million workers, or one in fourteen, failed to take their full holiday allowance in the UK and that £32 billion of unpaid overtime was worked (TUC surveys, 2019) it's time to exercise a little concern about how much resilience we expect our employees to have and question whether we're fully supportive of them. Also, how much do we support ourselves as managers or business owners.

 

Here are some positive tips to support better resilience;

 

- Belief is a key component in resilience. Belief in yourself, that you're strong enough and can come through tough situations. Belief that things happen for a reason, that you'll learn from the experience and grow as a consequence. And belief that by sticking with 'the plan' things will work out in the end.

 

- But equally, set yourself realistic goals. Yes, stretching yourself is important, but resilience is also about being fair and realistic with yourself. What else is going on in your life, is this a good time to take on extra pressure or challenges? Do you need to re-evaluate what you've committed to? Should you have a rethink due to limited resources?

 

- Pay attention to how you treat problems and setbacks. Cultivate a positive outlook where you regard blips as opportunities to test yourself and enhance your skills. Be pragmatic and avoid reacting or making a drama out of what's going on. Might it be a good time to question your approach, delegate to someone more skilled in a particular area, undergo some additional training? But equally accept that sometimes things don't work out. They're not meant to be or maybe it's not the right direction for you to go in. That's a valuable lesson too. Avoid taking things personally; it's rarely about you.

 

- Appreciate diversions and detours as opportunities to explore new avenues and directions. Sometimes they'll lead to amazing and unexpected experiences that contribute significantly to your growth and future career. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be both scary and exhilarating at the same time. It stops us from becoming complacent. 13/10/2020 What Does Resilience Mean to You?

 

- Appreciate your team, whether it's at work, home or in your social life, and be sure to treat them well. Having good people around you is important and supports your resilience. They provide space for you to discuss your concerns, talk through ideas and maybe suggest viable alternatives. Fun distractions can provide a valuable break, forcing you to forget work and have time away from the coal face.

 

- Appreciate yourself. Stop and say 'well done' sometimes. Have times when you reflect on how far you've come, how much you've achieved. Anniversaries or New Year can be especially good for this, even when there are no tangible results to show. Respect and give yourself credit for having a go, making the effort and putting yourself out there.

 

- Appreciate your health. It's easy to take health for granted, but it's important to pay attention to good nourishment and nutrition, quality sleep, exercise and breaks. Look after yourself by tuning in to how you're feeling. Are you dealing well with stress? How you manage stress has a significant bearing on your ability to be resilient.

 

- Don't wait till everything's in place, tried and tested or perfect. Resilience is about movement, taking action. It's about having a go-ahead approach to life and seeing the opportunities each situation offers. And, once started, it's often interesting to see how the pieces all start falling into place.

 

- But also be prepared to make tough decisions if required. Be firm about what's right for you. It can be tempting to say, 'yes' to everything when you're in business, but taking on too much, or the wrong kind of work can cause more problems than it solves. Saying 'no' can sometimes be positive and liberating, freeing you to focus on your specific skills, talents and business or career path.

 

- Be receptive to new opportunities and be ready to say, 'yes' on occasion. 'Yes' can take you to unexpected places, test your resilience in a positive way, open new doors and remind you why you do what you do!

 

When you cultivate resilience as a positive part of your approach to life you'll find that your health, wellbeing and happiness levels improve as a consequence.

Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Susan_Leigh/399535

How to Identify Steps Leading to the Achievement of Your Goal

 What are your goals in life, what would you like to achieve? This article discusses an important issue regarding goal achievement.

 

Your goals can easily turn into just mere fantasies if you do not identify the necessary steps that you need to take in order to have your goals achieved.

 

It is very tempting when we think of goal achievement to think of exactly what we want and nothing before what we want. If you want 2 million dollars, what is the first thing that you think of? Exactly, 2 million dollars. I would like to bring it to your awareness that, it is best to focus on not just what you want but the steps that you need to take to get what you want. Sometimes it is not the goal itself that matters but what you do before achieving your goal. How may people do you know that want to open a restaurant or want to start farming or want to exercise and get fit, but who, do not take even a single step leading to those goals?

 

The truth is your goals and dreams are just waiting for you to be act in order for them to get fulfilled, to take the first step and take the initiative. Nothing will step, you might meet some obstacles along the way but if you continue on the step you mean to take you just become like a child learning to walk. You will stumble, and maybe even fall and hurt yourself a little, you carry on and just take the next step. If you do that, just like a child, you will learn to walk, your dreams will come true and you will achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve. But first, you just need to take the first step.

 

I want to leave you with this question? is there anything that you can do today, right now that you can be the first step towards your goal. Maybe this is a phone call to a business network, or sending an email, or updating your resume or typing the first word on your business plan. Whatever it is, just for an hour stop anything else that you are doing and just do it right now.

 

Remain inspired, move mountains and all obstacles standing in the way of your dreams. Do not dare give up on yourself and your dreams. Always remembers, "yes you can!", "yes you can!", "yes you can!"

 

Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Phillip_Ramphisa/2057309 09/10/2020

How Your Mind Sabotages Your Life & How To Stop It

 T Harv Eker gives and insightful dive into the mind and how it can go against you! definitely worth a watch!

6 Steps to Take Action Right Now

"I wish I didn't play it too safe" said my father then he continued "you're young, so get out and take risks, fail and learn". That was enough for me to take action towards my goals. Just think about it, you work for your goals and you achieve them, wouldn't it be amazing? Easier said than done, right? If you don't give a chance to yourself, it will never happen.

 

What is worst, we all tried to do something to make our lives better. Especially, in new years, many people have that 'new year, new me' mindset. Weird enough, they and also you pursued the same habits to achieve different goals. It's like eating chicken and expecting the taste of beef. After all of the failed attempts, you become hopeless and start to believe that you don't have what it takes.

 

The good news? You do have what it takes! However, first things first. The main reason you failed in the past is this: you set a goal in your mind, you read, listen, watch and gather information about it. And you forgot the most important part; the execution. Let's say, you want to play violin, have a hot body, or start a business. What do you do? You go for it! You spend too much time learning 'about' your goal that eventually, you run out of energy for the actual goal.

 

 Hesitation is another issue; you think like should I go for it? Will it be beneficial? Am I going to be successful? What others are going to think? I've got a question for you; how on the earth are you going to know the answer without trying? The only thing you should get out of this; you spend too much energy about your goal rather than the goal itself.

 

Procrastination, I had this problem in the past, I feel you. I generally put off working on my goals; I'll start working on it after watching this episode. Alright, I'll just listen to one more music and get started. Guess what happened? Nothing, I killed my valuable time. And I've had enough of it, you've had enough of it too. Here's how to take action right now:

 

 First, understand your fears. Yes, fears and yes, the ones that you deny. If you wish you can write them down on a piece of paper. But generally, we're scared of these: failure and what others will think about what we do. The bad news, you're going to fail, I know from myself, I did it whole lots of times. The worse, it will hurt, yet I've got good news as well. Every time you fail, you learn how to get back up. Certainly one reason that you're afraid of failure is because you don't want other people to see it, that's why you don't want to fail.

 

It's funny, because you're not their priority, so they don't think about you as much as you think they think about you. Suppose that one your friends started training martial arts. He got serious about in his new hobby and after training a couple of months participated a tournament. Let's say, he got destroyed in his first match. How much would you care? Are you going to make fun of him or if yes, for how long? As you can see, there's no need of fear of failure that comes from worrying about others' reactions.

 

Second, you should accept failure. There are many ways to embrace failure, in my opinion, changing the definition of failure is the easiest one. How? Instead of 'failure' you can say 'stepping stone', 'lesson', or 'opportunity for growth'. The more you fail, the more 'opportunities for growth' you will have. Trust me, one of those opportunities will work for you, afterwards, you'll rise like a star. You don't fail because you take action, you fail because you don't take action.

 

Third, you learn on the way. Your worst is your first, remember that. Do a favour to yourself, have low expectations in your first try. No one was born as professional athletes, wonderful writers, or singers. All of the successful people put tremendous amount of effort on their work. There's no secret, you have to do the same if you want to achieve your goal. It's perfectly okay to think, read, listen and gather information about what you want to do, however, make sure you'll have enough energy to put necessary efforts into your goal. Otherwise you'll not be going forward.

 

 Fourth, run away from temporary desires as your life depends on it. Temporary desires ruin your life. While you think of one more episode, one more music or one more night out, the other person out there working is winning. If something that you do doesn't help you, then don't do it. For instance, I love listening to music, therefore, I listen to music before I work. It starts with that sentence 'just one more' or 'alright, this is the last one', trust me it is more than one more or last one. When I started to write instead of listening to music, I found myself writing till 2 a.m. So, just get started!

 

The last one, take your time. It is good to visualize your success and it does motivate you, however, you should take only one step at a time. When it comes to achieving something, you cannot start on the top. Don't try to be on the top in the beginning of the journey, as I've said before, have low expectations in the beginning.

 

If you keep thinking about what you want to do, you'll hesitate, fear and put off more. Which will not bring any positive results. On the other hand, if you start doing what you want to do right now, eventually, you'll have some results (good or bad). More than that, if you keep trying, eventually, you will get your desired outcome. What are you waiting for? Go for it!

Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Ahmet_Meliksah_Akdeniz/2758352 

5 Reasons You're Not Achieving Your Goals

 A short, sharp and snappy video highlighting 5 reasons why you may not be achieving your goals by Brian Tracy.

Tell Me, What Do You Do?

 

'What do you do' is often an opening gambit when meeting a stranger. It's deemed to be a safe, fairly neutral way of starting a conversation and getting to know someone. But how influenced are we by someone's reply, how much difference does it make if they say they're a brain surgeon, nuclear scientist, cleaner or supermarket worker? How impressed are we by their answer?

 

Interestingly many job titles have changed over recent years, presumably to deliver greater importance and gravitas to the roles: the use of ambiguous words like consultant, operative and adviser are now used liberally in job descriptions. Sometimes it's impossible to guess how powerful or senior the role is and some businesses prefer to keep it that way, wanting to maintain a more level playing field, with less apparent hierarchy.

 

 I know of at least one multi-millionaire businessman who refers to himself as a grocer! And then there are those less common, perhaps more unusual jobs. If someone says they're a taxidermist, funeral director or even a hypnotherapist it can cause others to pause and be unsure as to whether they're impressed or not! Discovering what someone does typically results in us digesting that information and forming an opinion. For example, if someone's says they're a stay-at-home parent do we automatically reflect on their circumstances, presuming them to be wealthy, privileged or lazy? Or if someone starts a cleaning job do we speculate that they must be desperately trying to make ends meet, a comment I read on social media, prompting the writing of this article. But each job, each role is a contribution to the overall running of a business, home or group.

 

Different tiers in any organisation bring different levels of investment in its setup and smooth operation, with specific tasks designed to keep things moving. From management to maintenance to day-to-day operations, each has to pull together and appreciate the other's role and value. The surgeon needs a clean, well-maintained operating theatre in which to work. Then there's transport to and from the hospital, perhaps a morning coffee. Yes, highly qualified professionals are necessary but so too are the tradespeople, the joiners, electricians as well as the filing clerks, administrators and organisers. We may be impressed by someone's education, their commitment to their career, their status and wealth, but let's not forget that there's a back story to those who both have and haven't achieved dizzy heights professionally.

 

Opportunity is a significant factor in education and career options. Where we're born has a massive bearing on the opportunities open to us; from a supportive, stable family background, neighbourhood, to the right levels of teaching and encouragement. Family values and income levels are a factor. In some families gender is of significance, with a boys education being deemed more relevant than a girls. Also, what else is going on in someone's life, what juggling acts are they required to perform each day? Remember their reasons for how they fill their time are their business, not ours. We simply see the public face, the surface, not the level of difficulty required for them simply to get out of their front door.

 

Their circumstances may mean that they need a flexible job due to childcare issues, or have elderly relatives who require a lot of attention. They may be in recovery for personal reasons, need a low stress, low responsibility job as their first stepping-stone on the way back to real life, taking things slowly as they improve their confidence levels. Or they may be new to an area, have had a massive change in circumstances, domestic arrangements, finances and are coming out of an especially tough time. Work may be less about money and status and more about getting out and meeting people, making social connections, almost a rehab, gently edging into a new routine, having somewhere to be. Sometimes a job may simply suit us, we're happy to drift along.

 

 We're taking care of ourselves, don't need stress and responsibility, may have even left a more high-powered role and that's fine. Work provides a reason to get up, wash, dress, turn up somewhere on time, meet people and earn a little money. There's more to work than simply a job title. It's provides a purpose, order to life, being part of a team, maybe with others relying on your being there, all hopefully helping with confidence and job satisfaction.

 

As Martin Luther King said, if you're going to a road sweeper be the very best road sweeper you can be and take a pride in what you do. One final note. We've all on occasion found a fantastic cleaner, handyman, gardener; they're worth their weight in gold. So much so that we scarcely dare recommend them to our friends for fear that we'll never be able to get them back! With that in mind, won't it be interesting next time you ask someone, what do you do!

 Dr Demartini shares his insights into self mastery, a truly must see!